• Español
  • English

Mastering the Art of Rejection

Mastering the Art of Rejection,My Business and Life Coach by Inma Moreno
Inma Moreno Coach Signature

Hey there!

Rejection is an unavoidable aspect of life, encountered by everyone from artists and entrepreneurs to job seekers and romantics. While it’s often perceived negatively, mastering the art of handling rejection can transform setbacks into opportunities for growth and self-improvement. This is how I navigate the complex emotions associated with rejection and come out stronger on the other side.

 

Understanding Rejection

The first step to mastering rejection is understanding what it means. Rejection, at its core, is not a judgment of our worth as a person but rather a mismatch of needs, expectations, or circumstances. It’s essential to recognise that rejection is subjective; what one person or organisation deems unsuitable may be highly valued by another. Can you remember being rejected by someone who was clearly incongruent by setting standards and expectations for others that they couldn’t meet? I hear you. Me too…

 

Emotional Resilience

What about hearing, “You are overqualified for this position”. What does it mean? Is the person trying to say, “You are too good for us” or  “Sorry, but I have no clue how to maximise your high potential within my organisation”? Who knows? However, I would appreciate some insights from any recruitment or partnerships departments there.

What I am certain about, is that building emotional resilience is crucial for handling rejection effectively. This involves developing a strong sense of self-worth independent of external validation.

 

 

Learning from Rejection

Every instance of rejection carries valuable lessons. Whether it’s a job application, a proposal, or a personal endeavour, taking the time to analyse why you were rejected can reveal insights into how you can improve. This might involve honing your skills, adjusting your strategies, or even reassessing your goals to ensure they align with your true desires.

After my experiences, I have learned that everything happens for a reason. When one door closes, it’s because the right path is leading you elsewhere.

 

Persistence and Flexibility

Mastering the art of rejection also requires a balance of persistence and flexibility. Persistence keeps you moving forward in the face of setbacks, motivated by the belief in your goals and abilities. Flexibility, on the other hand, allows you to adapt your approach based on the feedback and lessons learned from past rejections.

 

Networking and Support

Surrounding yourself with a supportive network can significantly ease the sting of rejection. Friends, family, mentors, and peers can offer encouragement, advice, and perspective that can help you bounce back more quickly. Moreover, networking can open up new opportunities that you might not have considered previously.

 

Celebrating Small Wins

Focusing on and celebrating small wins is a powerful way to maintain momentum and positive spirits in the face of rejection. Achieving minor goals provides a sense of progress and accomplishment, reinforcing your self-worth and ability to succeed despite obstacles.

 

Conclusion

I don’t take rejection personally because I always remember a story from Jorge Bocay. Making the story short, it’s about a teacher who sent a young man to sell his ring for at least one gold coin. The boy offered the jewel to over a hundred people in the market but failed to make a sale. Dejected by his failure, he mounted his horse and returned to the wise man.

The wise man advised the child to visit the jeweller to determine the ring’s true value. The jeweller determined that the ring was worth seventy coins.

Then, the young man ran excitedly to the teacher’s house to tell him what had happened.

“Sit down,” the teacher said after listening to him. You are like that ring: a jewel, valuable and unique. And as such, only a true expert can evaluate you. Why do you go through life expecting anyone to discover your true value?

And, saying this, he put the ring back on the little finger of his left hand.

 

My friend, mastering the art of rejection is not about avoiding or ignoring the pain it can cause but about learning to navigate it with grace, resilience, and a growth mindset. By understanding rejection, building emotional resilience, learning from the experience, persisting, and remaining flexible, you can turn rejection from a roadblock into a stepping stone toward success. Remember, every no brings you one step closer to a yes that can change your life. So, my favourite sentence after being rejected is “Okay, who’s next?”😉.

 

 

Now, are you ready to take charge of your life and embrace the challenges that come your way? It might just be the best investment you make. Take the first step today; contact me for a FREE session and let’s embark on a journey of personal growth, transformation, and fulfilment.

 

Read now 👉🏻 📕  Navigating Life’s Challenges: Why Having Me as Your Life Coach Can Make a Difference

 

 

Inma Moreno Coach

Master in NLP coaching and Time Line Therapy®

 

Related posts